Sometimes it feels like the worst part of living with IC, besides the chronic pain, fatigue and allergies to just about everything, is how it impacts and affects our relationships.  Sometimes those that we are the closest to may not truly understand how to react to our sudden spiral into poor health.  Some family members and friends might respond by becoming withdrawn or unable to express their true feelings to you.  Others might support you to the point of going overboard by inundating you with every conceivable print out on: aloe vera, TENS units, overactive bladder, cranberry juice, etc. 

It might be difficult to not get upset with either of these reactions by friends and family members.  We have to remind ourselves that they too have been impacted by our diagnosis of IC and they have to deal with it in their own way.  A chronic illness is similar to experiencing the death of a loved one and we (as well as our friends and family members) may go through the following stages of grief (as identified by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross):

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)

Anger (why is this happening to me?)

Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)

Depression (I don't care anymore)

Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

Shock or Disbelief

Guilt

Know that these steps are a normal part of the acceptance process as you and your family and friends come to terms with the diagnosis of a chronic illness.  You might find it helpful to seek assistance from a licensed psychologist, counselor or pastor to help you (and your loved ones) as you experience the stages of grief.