It might be difficult to not get upset with either of these reactions by friends and family members. We have to remind ourselves that they too have been impacted by our diagnosis of IC and they have to deal with it in their own way. A chronic illness is similar to experiencing the death of a loved one and we (as well as our friends and family members) may go through the following stages of grief (as identified by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross):
Know that these steps are a normal part of the acceptance process as you and your family and friends come to terms with the diagnosis of a chronic illness. You might find it helpful to seek assistance from a licensed psychologist, counselor or pastor to help you (and your loved ones) as you experience the stages of grief.